It’s good to be back, it’s been so long since I found the time to sit down and update my blog.
In my last post I promised to report back following my ‘Carer’s Assessment’ so apologies it has taken me so long . It’s almost 10 months since I wrote that post. So much has happened during that time with my dad’s health and wellbeing, which has been, and still is my main priority.
Having a Carer’s assessment was the best thing for me, I found it very relaxed and centred on me and not my dad. . All of my time has been taken up with my dads health, how he was feeling, what he needed and how I could support him. I never once thought about myself, or how this change in circumstances was impacting on my general health and wellbeing.
My Carer’s assessment was carried out by an experienced social worker
The social worker wanted to know about my work and career, my family, my feelings and above all else she wanted to know how she could support me. . .I realised this was the first time I had talked to anyone about the pressure I had been under, I had kept everything to myself and had just got on with what I needed to do.
To cut a long story short, the outcome was the realisation that I needed support to look after my dad, the social worker made me realise I couldn’t carry on doing this on my own therefore, I agreed for a meeting to take place with my dad to discuss the need for a ‘Care Package’ to be put in place.
Discussing the Care Package with Dad:
A few weeks later, the meeting took place, and I made sure that my dad understood the options available and after much discussion regarding his needs, he agreed to the support that would come from professional Carer’s. We agreed on a 5 day package Monday – Friday consisting of 3 half hour calls a day (I would take care of the weekends as dad spent most of them at my home)
Morning – Making sure my dad was up, washed, dressed and had breakfast and prompt medication.
Lunchtime – Making sure dad had prepared or needed lunch preparing and to prompt medication
Dinner – Making sure dad had prepared or needed dinner preparing
I would still be visiting everyday in between these visits, and taking care of his medication before bed. I would still continue to take him for all his hospital appointments, pension, shopping. I would still be doing all his washing and cleaning, and taking care of his monthly bills and finances (as dad had stopped taking care of all of this)
The Care Package:
A few weeks later the care package commenced, and although I was very apprehensive about it, I soon realised how the support of professional Carer’s was giving me some peace of mind, as well as a little bit of time to myself each day. I had just spent almost 2 years looking after dad as well as supporting my daughter with picking my granddaughters up from school, or after school clubs etc. . I was spending every day racing against time, making sure I was up early to get to my dads to support him with washing/dressing/eating/medication, it had been exhausting and I hadn’t even realised how it was impacting on me. . I am so glad I took the advice to have a carer assessment.
I have been very involved in getting my dads care package right, it hasn’t been easy and there have been days that things had not gone as expected, in fact there have been days when I was close to cancelling the whole package of care due to quite a few instances, but I will report back on this. . Hopefully it won’t take me 10 months this time.